In the past, I might have been known to throw a pity party or two on Valentine's Day. Most of my friends were married and having kids. I thought, "That's what I want!" But I didn't have it, and I thought there was something wrong with me because I didn't. I was wrong.
Sometime over the last year, I've realized that not only is there nothing wrong with me, there is a lot that is right. I just didn't really want to be married. I mean, I thought I did. And don't get me wrong. If Mr. Right had walked in, I probably would've ridden off into the sunset with that cowboy. But I just haven't been ready. I had things that I wanted to accomplish with my life before I settled down. For one thing, I wanted to finish school. (Goodness, that took a lot longer than I thought it would.) I also needed to figure out what I wanted to contribute to this world. And now, I've not only figured it out; I'm doing it.
Because I have accomplished (or at least on the road to accomplishing) those goals, I find myself stronger than ever. I'm not as afraid of life or others' opinions of me as I used to be. I'm just ready to give everything I've got to my hopes and dreams. The beauty of that strength is that I'm also free and happy to let life flow, and to recognize it as good, whatever it is. Everything is what it is.
I'm not looking for a change in my life, because my life is good. Sure it would be great to share all of my incredible blessings with someone, but on THIS Valentine's Day, I'm happy to have all of the warmth and love that surrounds me daily. I don't need anything else. I'm grateful.
Plus, this stage of my life offers a lot of great things too. For example, as a single gal with no children...
1. I have more time to give to my family and friends.
2. I have more time to give to SixTwelve, Paseo, the arts in Oklahoma, and more!
3. I have more time to travel and see the world.
But like I said, if the right guy came along...I'd just invite him along on the adventures. Whatever happens, I'm happy, and I'm more grateful for that than any date I might have tonight.